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18 articles on gottman.
- Therapy & Alternatives
At-Home Premarital Counseling: A Free Six-Session Course
A free at-home premarital counseling course for engaged couples: six guided sessions on money, conflict, intimacy, and meaning, plus when to see a pro.
11 min read - Communication
How to Express Appreciation in a Relationship
How to express appreciation in a relationship when you're out of practice: why it fades, the Gottman 5:1 ratio, and scripts that sound real, not forced.
10 min read - Therapy & Alternatives
Relationship Audit Checklist: Free Printable for Couples
A free printable relationship audit checklist covering friendship, repair, shared meaning, and fairness of load, plus how to debrief it without a fight.
11 min read - Communication
10 Daily Connection Rituals for Busy Couples (Under Two Minutes Each)
Daily connection rituals for busy couples: 10 research-backed micro-habits under two minutes each, anchored to the everyday transitions you already have.
10 min read - Communication
15 Softened Startup Examples From Gottman's Research
Softened startup examples, Gottman-style: 15 fill-in-the-blank scripts that raise a hard topic without defensiveness, with the harsh version beside each.
12 min read - Communication
Defensive Body Language in Relationships: What It Means
Defensive body language in relationships: why single cues mean nothing, which nonverbal clusters track with disconnection, and how to check.
11 min read - Communication
Micro Repair Attempts: 20 Small Moves That Save Big Fights
Micro repair attempts are the small mid-fight moves that de-escalate before flooding sets in. 20 examples couples can use, plus why accepting one matters.
11 min read - Communication
The Gottman Conflict Blueprint: 6 Steps, Explained
The Gottman conflict blueprint: 6 research-backed steps for a hard conversation, and how to tell solvable fights from perpetual ones.
10 min read - Modern Pressures
Phubbing Partner Validation Scripts: What to Say When You Feel Invisible
Phubbing partner validation scripts: exact phrases that name the loneliness without attacking, built on the Gottman complaint-not-criticism distinction.
10 min read - Modern Pressures
Digital Distraction and Gottman's Four Horsemen
How digital distraction feeds Gottman's Four Horsemen: the technoference research, the causal path from phubbing to contempt, and how to interrupt it.
10 min read - Therapy & Alternatives
Emotional Intimacy Mapping: A Checklist for Couples
An emotional intimacy mapping checklist that builds a visual map across four dimensions, so you can see where your connection is strong and where it's thin.
11 min read - Communication
The Six-Second Kiss: What It Is and Why It Works
The six second kiss ritual, explained: where the figure comes from, why duration is a proxy for attention, and 5 frictionless ways to turn toward your partner.
9 min read - Communication
Relationship Honesty Hour: 30 Prompts for the Conversation You've Been Avoiding
A relationship honesty hour, explained: the rules that keep it safe, when not to do it, and 30 tiered prompts from light warm-up to genuinely vulnerable.
10 min read - Therapy & Alternatives
DIY Marriage Counseling Exercises to Do at Home
DIY marriage counseling exercises for home: the Gottman, EFT, NVC and Imago protocols, the limits of self-guided work, and when to bring in a clinician.
30 min read - Communication
The Gottman 5:1 Ratio: What It Is and How to Measure It
The Gottman 5:1 ratio explained: what 40 years of research shows about the positive-to-negative balance that predicts lasting love.
9 min read - Communication
How to Complain Without Criticizing: Gottman's First Horseman and What Replaces It
Criticism predicts divorce; complaint doesn't. The Gottman distinction, with 12 examples of turning a critical line into a useful complaint.
8 min read - Communication
Couples Communication Exercises to Do at Home
Couples communication exercises you can do at home: scripts for hard conversations, repair after a fight, and the patterns that predict lasting closeness.
26 min read - Communication
How to Repair After a Fight: A Step-by-Step Conflict Recovery Guide for Couples
The complete guide to repair after a fight: the Gottman aftermath framework, de-escalation scripts, what to do in the next 24 hours, and how to break the loop.
27 min read